Pain demands to be felt.

Quoted from "the fault in our stars" by John Green.

I can't say I've been through a lot, nor I can say I've been through little. I felt pain in life in different aspects, I could never explained what does pain mean to me, until the book stated was published. 

Everyone experienced all kind of pains. The pain of losing our love ones, the pain of surviving cancer, the pain of lost, everything...... Well, it demands to be felt, that's the thing about pain. 

I had a thought in my mind after reading this book. Would like to share though. 

What would you do if you have a friend that's suffering from cancer? Or even one of your family member? (Which is probably worse) We can never ever understand how they feel. They are emotionally, physically and mentally tortured by a grenade. They feel the pain which we don't. They always stay strong. They are different in a way. But they are always strong. They fight for their lives. They are still staying strong.

We often say we will be there for them. We often give them moral support. We often feel sad about their condition. Think about this, will these help much? I'm not saying these actions are wrong, but pain demands to be felt.

The best thing we can do is simply just be there and lend them ourselves. Our shoulder, our ears, our time, our mind. 

It won't make their pain vanish in thin air, well at least it minimise the pain felt. Still that phrase, "pain demands to be felt".